You’re not lazy. You’re willing to put in your time. You’re not afraid of hard work. So why is it so hard to get your shit together?

Too general. Too broad. What’s the WHY? The “why” helps you set a goal. Are you in debt? Are you in a dead end job? Do you have kids to put through college? Do you feel undervalued? All very different situations which will likely require a different path.

Question for you…Have you actually set goals for yourself? Have you really identified what you want and just as importantly, WHY you want it? It’s more difficult than it sounds. Try writing down a clearly defined goal. For example, you want to lose weight. Ok.

I want to lose 20 pounds.


I want to find a nutrition and fitness program that fits well into my lifestyle and allows me to maintain a healthy weight, have energy to ______, and feel proud of my physical appearance.

See the difference? You have the what and the why. And now you can actually figure out what steps to take to get there. You can seek out a nutrition coach, or research different programs to decide what seems like a good fit for you. Same goes for choosing a gym. Going back to your set goal, your clearly defined, written goal, will help you make better decisions. You’ll be less likely to get sucked into a trendy “diet” that you know will be miserable for you. You won’t join a gym that’s inconvenient for you. Or sign up for workouts you dread. That wouldn’t be serving your ultimate goal. It wouldn’t set you up for success.

How about another one?

I want to make more money.

I want to get out of debt and become financially stable so that I can save money for the future.

I want to find a career that allows me to work in a field that I enjoy with upside potential to grow and…buy a home….take family vacations…support my family…create personal wealth.

I want to create a budget that allows me to save money to provide for my kids’ education.

I want to earn a fair salary for the work that I do and feel valued.

The steps you’d take for each goal would be very different. You may need to find a new job, a new career even, or look into an additional source of income. You may need to seek help creating a savings plan for a specific goal.

I speak from experience. I’ve failed to reach many goals. Mainly because they didn’t really exist. I had ideas of what I wanted, but an idea is not a goal. If you don’t know what you’re really after, or why, it’s like running on a treadmill – not very inspiring, easy to lose interest and tough to stay on it for long. (On another note,  for an effective, less boring treadmill workout, click HERE.)

This is just a start. But you can’t skip the first and most important step. SET A GOAL. Define it clearly. Write it down. Read it daily. Only then can you start to map out your plan.